My Millville Memories: They come, they go. They appear from a word I read, a song on the radio. I created this "fictionalized memoir" to preserve my memories of growing up in a small South Jersey town before they fade away. And I have decided to add Part 2, which continues my grown "adventures". I'm hoping others will read and relive their own wonderful bittersweet days...and have a laugh or two. I would be delighted if you add a comment or share your own memory here. © 2022 All Rights
Friday, June 30, 2023
CHIEF OF THE CHEROKEES (Camp HollyBrook Summer 1 of 5)
Friday, June 2, 2023
THEN AND NOW
My granddaughter Violet Pearl "graduated from Kindergarten today. She's six years old and to my surprise she read to me from the story book gift I gave her - "First Grade Here I Come!" The past quickly and I'm still amazed that she has finished her first year of public school! She was a bundle in my arms a blink ago.
What a difference in primary education between then and now. She only had trouble with several words in here new book but sounded them out and quickly got them right. Like Violet I had to wait a whole year until I was six to got to public school because my fifth birthday like hers in December missed the admission age by a couple of weeks. Finally, I got to go - half a day. Violet goes from 9:15 AM until 4:45 PM. In my early days I guess the educators believed a full day was too much for our delicate state of growth. The kindergarten was isolated from the rest of the Bacon School I guess for our protection form wild first graders who like to beat up toddlers. We had our own entrance up a long flight of stairs that I climbed the first day like a convicted man walking his last mile. And our own fenced in playground with the proverbial "monkey bars" and shinny sliding board. Our day started with a flag salute, the singing of "My country Tis of Thee" and a bible paragraph read by our teacher. None of us could read that weighty tome. But even with a short-day Mrs. Garton gave us a half hour to nap. We had a bunch of rugs that we hauled out of the cloakroom (a room filled with hooks even though none of us had a "cloak" - or knew what one was. We also got a snack during our brief day of first year of "public education" - and some kids brought there own. We munch of cookies and milk at round tables rather than typical elementary school desks. Four to a table which had short legs and a set of miniature chairs so our feets could reach the floor. The only real schoolwork I remember is copying my name from a paper which was printed by our teacher - printing was the only means of writing as the Pearson Cursive writing was no introduced to us until we were in third grade. We also learned to count to 10 and our colors which didn't include tan or magenta.
Speaking of colors, I especially like the days when our art teacher
would drag her cart of supplies into our room and we got to do another refrigerator
masterpiece. I hated finger painting much too messy. I'll never
forget my introduction to the art world - the day we drew our family
portrait. Every kid at my table did the universal kid-drawing - stick
figures standing on a strip of brown at the bottom of the page, a cabin with
smoke coming out of a chimney and a blue strip representing the sky across the
top of the page - except me. I colored the blue sky all the way down to
the brown ground. The art teacher looked and my drawing and declared that
maybe I would like to try again as the sky was up at the top. I retorted,
"Why skies come all the way down to the ground and there is no white
inbetween!" She look confused but I wasn't and from that moment on I
was considered "artistic" by my peers around the formica covered
table.
Violet can read big words that took me and my cohorts to second grade to
master. Mrs. Gillian’s classroom down the mysterous marble hallway we
kindergarteners never got to roam - we also had our own bathroom in our
classroom which most of us, especially me were to embarassed to use until we
couldn't hold it any longer. Hanging on the blackboards (which were black
BTW) were three foot long vertical cards with the magic words of reading on
them - when we mastered one list we moved on to the next. I can still
recite the first card - Cah - Can - Candy. Sa-San-Sandy. We droned
sounding out words every day first few months until we graduated to the famous
Dick & Jane reading book. The characters of the historic fictions are
still embedded in my brain. Spot the dog. Puff the cat. Sally the baby sister. However, Dad
and Mother had no names, nor did the milkman or any others participants in our
daily introcution to the wonderful world of literature.
However,
I have no recollection of actually learning to read but do remember I liked
"puzzle time". When Mrs. G would choose a person from each
table to go to the large rack and select one of the wooden puzzles. I
always looked for the blue one which was my favorite color. AFter the
first 20 times of doing the group exercise most of us lost interest in the
actual puzzle that we did.
My
school days memory evaporated when Violet finished her book. I praised
her skill and asked what her favorite subject in school was. She replied,
" I really like science. We studying "vibrations" right
now!" She then proceeded to explain the mechanics of air and sound
waves.
Then and now - Wow.
Friday, May 12, 2023
THE WASHINGTON TRIP
I saw a post on Facebook about a senior high school class trip to Disney World and I thought in my day the senior trip was to Washington DC – in what was loosely justified as an “educational” trip to compliment our required senior year “civics” class…and then remembered standing by the cannon in front of the high school…
…I had on a new sports shirt which mom bought at Jules Men & Boys and a pair of “comfortable” shoes as prescribed by the handout “ How to Prepare” that was sent home a few weeks before our big trip. I was more than set for the trip that I had waited four years to make – the one we had heard so many legendary tales about from our upper class pals as we rose through the ranks at MHS. And now it was here.
A chilly 6 AM, as the girls clustered a few yards away from us guys who were pretending that we weren’t cold too – only “My Boy David” as he was known – the math shark was warm. His mom made him wear a jacket until at least the 4th of July. Always on guard against a wayward infectious bug, he stood apart from us reading a paperback copy of Catcher in the Rye. Only Dave woul bring an assignment by Happy Easter, the demonic English 4 teacher who delighted in giving homework on holiday and other event-filled weekends – David never missed a chance to study. His hard work would earn him the “Salutatorian” spech at our graduation which was only a month away. He missed being the Valedictorian by one point.
We piled on three chartered Public Service buses – finding a box lunch on each seat - prepared from the required food groups by our ever health conscious cafeteria ladies. And off we went leaving a trail of diesel exhaust behind. The trip took forever – especially since our class adviser, Ole Rile regaled us with his famous joke a minute routine over the bus PA system and once again I was his target. “Hey Cal, did you hear the one about the monkey who walked into a bar and said…” This went on for hours until one of the other teacher chaperones had it – she started singing “100 bottles of beer on the wall” and as all joined her as the algebra II joke man was drowned out by the rounds. After we got to 38 bottles I wanted the jokes back.
In 1962 I-95 was just a dream for the Federal Army Engineers as we trudged through big towns and small burgs. And then we saw it looming on the horizon.
The Capitol building of the United States of America. Most of us were seeing the great edifice for the first time – I marveled how big it was standing tall at the top of the great mall of monuments and museums. And that day we were literally to them all – the Lincoln, Washington, Jefferson Memorial; a FBI Tommy gun demonstrations; Mount Vernon; Lee’s Mansion. We passed the White House at 40 miles and hour rushing to our next stop, After dragging ourselves on and off the buses all day and seeing lots of antiquity that was behind maroon velvet ropes. It was dinnertime at the hotel which had to have been built by one of our forefathers. Chicken, mashed, buttered carrots and a ball of vanilla ice cream (which most of us ate first) was the the only choice on our one-size fits all menu. My best friend Bub and I settled into our lavish suite – ok, our economy double room overlooking a brick wall view. Now here, I wished we had done a third night of the Variety Show fundraiser for this trip. In minutes our room started to fill up with our guys. The plan close of our first day away was about to begin - we, the real men of the class, were going to have some adult fun if we kept our voices down. Bub broke out the White Owl cigars; David had smuggled a bottle of sloe-gin out of his house. Rob had somehow managed a six-pack of Bud at the hotel shop - we dared not ask ask how. Long into the wee hours we “partied” and played poker for pennies. Of course we each only downed a half a can of beer but at our age that was enough - the fear of getting caught was the actual intoxication.
The next day we were hung-over more from smoking cheapies and the bus fumes didn't help as we journey to Williamsburg VA where we learned it was a place where nothing had actually happened. And then on to Roanoke VA where we toured a place where nothing was actually left to see. We ended up at a harbor on the Cheaspeak Bay and stayed on a boat that was converted into a small hotel. We had the place to ourselves but we were all too bushed to get into trouble trying a panty raid which we told was a “last night” tradition (the tale was handed down every year but never actually happened). Early the next morning in a soupy for we started back to the Holly City after a Ho-JO breakfast special at Howard’s famed place with the orange roofs and 57 varieties of ice cream.
Our long awaited senior frolic was rolling north to an end. Nobody sang on the way home. Ole' Rile didn't tell a signle joke. Everyone slept - except the bus driver and David who worked on a calculus worksheet.
Friday, May 5, 2023
THE PROM
Today I read an article about some high school kids rented a tank to drive them to a prom and it arrived with Darth Vadar playing bagpipes, A photo showed the boys in pastel tuxes that matched their date’s gowns (who all seemed a bit underdressed to be riding in a tank in my opinion). I groused, “Kids today…they surely don’t…” then I caught myself sounding like my mother again and I cut the thought off but then my mind flowed back to Millville once again...and my Prom.
The Spring of 1960 filled with me thinking about The Junior Prom. And the question, who should I ask? (Translated = who would actually say yes if I asked them!) This decision vexed me for days. Who I wanted to ask vs. who I would have the courage to ask? But I knew I had to ask someone soon – this was a must in high school life and it had to be faced sooner or at least later. Much like the Navajo boy I read about and his trial by fire. Mine would be trial by dancing in a rented tux. I had many false starts and finally asked Sue Q. to the Junior Prom. She was a freshman and a much better bet to say “yes” than if I had asked a junior girl I liked who I feared would not be all that excited about going with me or that mysterious sexy senior I constantly watched at her locker on the way to math - definitely out of my league for sure.
Once the asking hurdle was jumped, I surveyed my savings account kept in a Prince Albert tobacco can in my sock drawer. $6 Bucks! Yikes that wouldn’t even cover the flowers even if Mrs. Schick, the florist, gave me a discount. I totaled my needs: Corsage @ $5; Tux rental @ $10 (Franks’ Men & Boys);Post prom dining @ $10.00 (The Vineland White Sparrow or The Franklinville Log Cabin?); Shared gasoline @$1.00. This came to a fortune in the teenager financial world. I was at least $20 bucks short. I saw a BOM loan negotiation in my future. (Bank of Mom). I could always count on her. And it all worked out.
I rented a white sport coat and I did indeed wear a red carnation in the label. Sue and I danced (well she danced and I sort of walked around with her and occassionally stepping on her feet) the night away to a very loud band in the high school gym with the lingering scent of sweat socks mixed with Old Spice. (Today’s kids get a rented country club.) Sue looked like she was about to pop out of her lavender dress, worn over a mysterious array of snaps, zippers and other stuff. Finally the band played the last dance. My pal Bub drove us to the very dimly lit Log Cabin, a mecca for romantic liaisons. We dined on their prom night special, deluxe cheese burgers and cokes. And I had Sue home by the appointed time – and seeing her dad waiting by the door meant no kiss goodnight. (He was a cop!)
And just like that – another milestone in my life’s long parade was quickly over. The tux went back and the crepe paper came down in the gym. But the memory of the first night of being a gentleman in formal dress... the thrill of finally feeling grown up would last with me forever.
Friday, April 21, 2023
THE PROVERBIAL PLAGUE
As the chronavirus fades and “social distancing” recedes...I wander in the corners of my mind....and I remember another epidemic...and like most kids at the Bacon elementary school I caught the bug. I caught everything it seemed growing up - but I wasn’t a pale sickly kid...in my days measles and mumps were easier to catch I guess... There weren't even doctors yet called pediatricians in my town.
I came home from school one day my grandmother Ethel said, “Calvin your face is red...are you Ok?” She put her hand to my forehead, a regular routine for as this was her usual diagnostic tool. She sighed and immediately gave me her universial core; half a Bayer’s aspirin….no need to take my temperature. Grandmother's don't seem to need thermometers. The oral thermometer many times was the bearer of good news for all kids if the red was a fraction above the universal “normal” line then we usually got to stay home from school for at least a day or two. Just to make certain Nanny got our ancient one and stuck it in my mouth. She told me to "keep it there" after a few minutes it read a blazing 99 and to my great dismay I wasn’t allowed to go outside and play. Instead I watched our new 10” Admiral TV...but Cartoon Corner was for shut-ins and a poor substitute, at this time of day, for outside play was a must after sitting in an ancient desk at Bacon School - mostly still and silent for 5 or 6 hours.
At dinner I wasn’t very hungry. My mom watched me “like a hawk”! (I always wondered how hawk's watched...they must stare alot). After dinner to confirm Nanny's diagnosis she touched my forehead and took my temperature. She give me the other half of the afternoon aspirin. The next morning I had a few red bumps on my belly - no school today for me she ordered. Later that afternoon Dr. Rosen came to my house (doctors made house calls in those days) as well as having office hours. A house call during the day, late at night or weekends cost $4.00 and $3 bucks if the doc didn't have to travel. What a difference a few decades makes...Today, I usually see my primary care’s certified nurse practitioner for 8 minutes after a 40 minute wait - it costs $180 bucks.
He took my temperature first too (I started to hate that glass rod). Looked at my stomach and proclaimed - “Margaret sorry to report our boy here has the Chicken Pox. (Note: Since Chickenpox has been almost entirely eradicated today almost every kid was destined to get it.
(I digress to give a brief Mayo Clinic description of this dreaded malady: “ Chicken pox is an infection caused by the varicella-zoster virus. It causes an itchy rash with small, fluid-filled blisters. Chickenpox is highly contagious to people who haven't had the disease or been vaccinated against it. Today, a vaccine is available that protects children against chickenpox. Routine vaccination is recommended by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).” And for trivia lovers - Chicken Pox has been around for centuries but you can't catch it from chickens. The name is thought to come from the small bumps that form all over the body - the ancients said they looked like chickpeas.)
But back to my tale of woe. Doc Rosen told us I had to stay home in bed for at least two weeks. I couldn’t watch TV because the disease could seriously harm my eyes! (Today, research had proven this was not so.) He recommended lot’s of rest in a darkened room and light meals. “And Cal,” he said directly to me, “ no scratching especially on your face... blisters will come soon from your bumps - if you scratch them they will leave scars.”
The plus for this visit - I didn’t get a shot. The downside, NO TV. This was much worse than a pox. After three days I was covered with bumps - on my arms, my back, even between my toes and on my eyelids...they soon turned into blisters and itched like the dickens (one of grandmother’s favorite terms - I always wonder what a dickens was? I never found out) For the first time in my life I had itches I couldn't scratch even in the privacy of my own bedroom! This was worse than missing Milton Berle Tuesday night.
I was now under constant surveillance by Nanny during the day and Mom at night - “No scratching,” they would command every time they came into my blacked out room of boredom and despair. However, having a lot of time I came up with a plan as I idled away the hours. I secretly scratched places that wouldn’t show a scar - I desperately needed some relief - the only time I didn't itch was when I dozed. Scratching my belly saved my highly visible body parts from miniscule scars that would deface me forever. These brief violations were moments of bliss.
Like everything in life, this plague passed, and the blisters stopped itching and turned into scabs. Dr. Rosen returned for a follow up and declared me not contagious. I was finally whole again... free at last...and ready to return to school. And most important, I could watch TV and go outside in the wonderful light of day. However in a few weeks the measles struck and I was home again for a week ...which was a cinch compared to the poultry pox.
Just remember this childhood passage for most kids of my time makes me itch all over - but fortunately I can scratch anywhere I want to.
Friday, March 31, 2023
THE IVY LEAGUE
How naive I was...In the summer of 1966 I had a college degree but was still a "real hick from the sticks” I had a degree in Art Education but about halfway through the BA courses I was bitten by the theater bug and drifted through my major with the intent of becoming a performer rather than an art teacher spending my life watching students draw and paint stuff. After graduation my musical comedy sidekick in our Campus Players production of The Music Man, Dom A. was bound for Broadway and was accepted at the prestigious Academy of Dramatic Arts in NYC and I sought to pursue my lifelong dream - a career in TV (which I thought was much more doable because I couldn’t sing and was such a bad dancer that the Players director cut several dance number in the three college musical comedies I “starred” in.) I was by my adviser urged me to continue at Temple University's for a MA in broadcasting but aftera visit to the campus I did not apply - frankly I was afraid of to walk from the parking lots in urban campus. The day I toured the campus I was literally serenaded by police sirens and screams in the night. I asked for a recommendation from my college President Dr. Robinson, (who I met with once a week as the student body president)and with his recommendation I applied to the new Annenberg School of Communications at the University of Pennsylvania and I was surprised to not only be accepted but also offered a full scholarship. (Learning #1 – its does pay to know people in high places).
Now
the naiveness begins. My mother and
grandmother got on a bus to Philly on a very hot day and walked the streets
looking for an affordable place for me to stay.
I actually thought that finding a place would be easy but 35,000 Penn
students started months before me to secure their digs. We trudged up and down the streets and
visited several real estate offices. We
were exhausted and tried one more – and the rep said he just had a cancellation
open up – a small one studio apartment at 46 and Pine streets we immediately
signed the rental paperwork. (Learning
#2 – never rent a place in a city before investigating the location. Today that would have been easy but…not in ’62) We looked at the furnished place which was
actually very nice. A first floor unit in
a house that had been turned into 3 apartments all resided in by Penn students. We staggered to the bus station (cabs seemed
to expensive for my trooper of a grandma) and bussed home to the sticks.
A
couple of weeks after I moved in, I learned from one of the other residents the
reason the apartment had been available.
THE FORMER TENENT WAS ROBBED AND MURDERED WALKING HOME FROM
CLASS!!!!! Every night after I slept
with a butcher knife under my pillow.
(But there’s more – stay tuned for Learning #3
next post)
THE PATH NOT TAKEN
My first summer of work and sweat seemed like it would never end but like all things it did. And the Saturday after Labor Day mom and I visited several men’s clothing stores for a new outfit for my first day at college. Madras was big in 1962. Mom said she thought it was silly buying a new shirt that was already faded! (Decades later I would say the same to my daughter - buying rip jeans was hard to fathom also - but that was fashion for ya). I was ready to go to Glassboro State.
But that wasn’t my first choice! I had applied to several institutions as most college bound high school students do - just in case. My first choice - The Philadelphia Museum College of Art. An internationally respected art school of fine arts. Part of the application process was to put together a “portfolio” of examples of my work. Ms Pierson, my art mentor who encouraged me to continue my artistic education, was a graduate of that institution - she helped me build the portfolio for most of the last half of the year. I sent it off and waited but I knew my chances were slim to none. The Museum School got applications from all over the world and I thought my “art” was ok but…
To my great surprise I received a letter a few months after applying: “We are pleased to inform you that you have been accepted to join the class of 1962…(the next paragraph “floored me”). “And after reviewing you portfolio our Faculty Scholarship Committee has awarded you our top full tuition and expenses scholarship for 1962. Congratulations….etc.
I was invited to visit the school and meet my professors and the Dean of Instruction as soon as possible to sign several admission’s documents. So on a hot summer day I took a day off from my summer job and took a bus to Philly which stops at every small town along the way. The 25 mile trip took two hours! Being admitted was a surprise but what came next was a bigger one. A summer student was assigned to take me on a tour of the various classrooms. He had his hair in a long ponytail, wore well worn sandals and a tie dyed tee-shirt. (I had a crew cut, brand new penny loafers that squeaked as I walked and wore a new button down oxford shirt!) As I followed him I was introduced to the “art world” that I had only seen depicted in movies. There were bongo drums and some female students singing folk songs. I was in the land of Maynard G. Kreps. Real beatniks! They scared me - a straight laced, naive kid from a factory town where long hair was a scourge to mankind. I lost my confidence in my skills walking to the Dean's office - plus I wanted to be an industrial designer. I wasn’t ready to have a mission to change the world.
After the usual greetings I blurted out, “I’m sorry Dean X but I can’t accept your scholarship and won’t be matriculating. He was stunned and with anger informed me that I had just turned down the school’s top prize. That my art work showed real promise that might become “exceptional” if I studied with the school noted artists. I could only reply, “I’m sorry and I had to catch a bus.” On the long ride home I pondered if I had done the right thing? I had gone to college just one day and was already a drop-out".
Now decades later seeing paintings selling for millions I still wonder where I would be now if I had traveled on the path not taken?
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